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Posts Tagged ‘etiquette’

The Guideline Policy Tool, Or Should I Call It “Style”?

Posted by envirostats on Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Last month, I shared my Practical Guide to Facebook Etiquette (Netiquette), serving as a starting point from which people could customize their own Facebook Netiquette to help stay out of potential trouble with their Facebook activities. I chose that approach because it:
– was customizable to suit different individuals;
– was easily found by all wanting to know;
– was self-taught so all finding it could use it;
– had more details than “general advice” that already existed in excess, often neither effective nor comprehensive.

Since then, I’ve realized there are many problems for which the guideline policy “tool” or “style” would be perfect. These are problems where there may not be a clear entity expected to intervene or solve, like government, or none that can effectively do so, but problems where a little suggestion of practical action could help put it under the radar. These are problems involving legal human behaviours that can amount to big impact, for which there are no “obvious” answers unless one really thinks about it, for which effective guidelines could remove 90% of that work. These are problems resembling social epidemics from individual choice that can have impact from societal to environmental.

Why I think the guideline policy style would be so effective is because humans don’t like to be forced. We like choices, though too many choices can lead to decisional paralysis. The guideline policy style strikes a nice balance of convenience and individuality by giving starting points with options, and saving much thinking and research. The guidelines won’t ever be intended to solve problem entirely, due to voluntary uptake, but they can be expected to solve the problem sufficiently that it should no longer be a concern, to the individual or masses.

There are two main challenges to the guideline policy style approach. One is getting the word out, which a little Internet saviness can solve. The second is credibility. An effective set of guidelines could slowly build this, but the tiniest authoritative backing, by even just one person who might be viewed as authoritative enough to validate it, would be a tremendous boost. Any other source generally viewed to be authoritative enough to validate the guidelines would even be better, maybe like government, which should get involved, where possible, because guidelines are not intrusive in nature. I’ll leave it to you to imagine the difference between guidelines, credible or not, by someone unknown as me, compared to one by, say, government or a school board, accompanied with a press release or maybe just one journalist invited in for a newspaper story.

As a result of these conclusions, I have created a Guidelines Category on this blog in which I will be posting more guideline policies as I find problems I think I can help solve. If you have any suggestions, please share. I’m not promising to be able to solve everything or even try some,  just willing to share some common sense and putting some effort to package it in practical ways to freely share with others.

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A Detailed Facebook Etiquette Guide

Posted by envirostats on Wednesday, November 26, 2008

This is a practical guide of some Facebook etiquette you might consider as starting points for your Facebook etiquette decisions. It is an abbreviated version of my three entries on my Facebook etiquette (part 1, part 2, part 3), where details and justifications were shared, and a longer version of my handy one page Practical Facebook Etiquette Guide. Please check those entries if you want to know more about the details and why I suggest some of these points.

Overall approach and mindset for everything
– Be positive all the time, especially with feelings (or avoid negativity if that is more meaningful)
– No swearing, even abbreviated swearing (or not excessively if you do the latter)
– Control privacy setting each time you post something, sharing Only with Friends almost all the time
– Have people in front of whom you need to behave among your Facebook friends as “designated monitors”
– If you do “inappropriate” things on Facebook, come back and delete it later to minimize visibility & damage
– Don’t get caught up in your friends or other people’s inappropriate behaviour, stick to your guns
– Treat your Facebook profile & activity like an informal resumé or media image of yourself, cause it is!

– Decide the minimum amount of what you want to notify others about and set it, not notify everything
– Check off nothing for Privacy, Newsfeed, Wall, and minimize application notification (ex. photos, notes)
– Set Notification Off for applications when you add them, unless they say something positive about you

Profile Visibility
– Use Only Friends privacy setting
– No limited profile access to anyone as if you’re that worried about them, they shouldn’t be your friends
– Profile visibility settings override blocking so blocked people can still see your profile if it is public

– Only people you’ve met in real life, choosing others carefully with validations from others you trust
– There is nothing wrong with rejecting people’s Friends Request on Facebook
– Update your Friends list by purging it once a season or a few times a year

Profile information
– Do not show personal contact information like addresses and home phones, personal cellular, etc.
– Do not list year of your birth (not even birthdays if you can bear it)
– Do not put anything about yourself that is less than flattering unless it’s obvious (ex. you smoke)

– Delete offensive or inappropriate comments, or counter with reply if you don’t want to delete something
– Avoid negative comments about others and especially those at work and/or your workplace
– It’s your Wall so control what shows up there, including notifications from applications & your comments

Status Updates
– Avoid updating more than a few times a day
– Avoid negative comments, especially feelings, news about others and news directed only at certain others
– Be careful about humour because “universal” humour that don’t offend is usually not very liberal

– You can have too many tagged photos of yourself (200 good shots should suffice)
– Untag less than flattering photos tagged by others, weeks after if you want to do it quietly or ask them
– No “inappropriate” photos (ex. sexually suggestive, drunk, obscene acts & gestures, by you or others)
– No photos that suggest bad behaviour even if photos are OK (ex. group shot for questionable activities)

Use Notes to demonstrate something good about you (ex. writing skills, thinking abilities, topic interest)
– Avoid diatribes, attacks on people you know, “survey” Notes (especially stupid or personal info ones)
– If you use Notes as a journal, realize it is a public journal and not a private diary

– Don’t tag others in things you wouldn’t want to be tagged if it were you being tagged (ex. bad photo)
– Don’t tag others in things you don’t think they’d want to be tagged (their standards may be stricter)

– Be selective where you comment, avoiding Walls & status unless you want all of someone’s friends to see it
– Think of all comments as being public to all and behave accordingly with your comments
– Avoid swearing, even in abbreviated form, doing it sparsely if you have to and maybe removing it later
– Avoid inappropriate comments, especially if you don’t know what someone’s “limits” are
– Remove someone’s comments from anything belonging to you if it’s beyond your “limits”

– Minimize Applications that play with your friends because they will take up a lot of your time
– Ask if an Application will benefit you and your profile image before adding (learning Applications are good)
– If an Application has few users, that’s a good sign not to sign up (check later to see if it becomes popular)
– Turn off Notifications on Applications unless it is something you really want to share, and not too often
– Scrutinize Applications invites and learn to say “no”

Groups and Fan Pages
You will be judged guilty by association so be careful the Groups and Fan Pages you join
– Learn about who is behind the Groups and especially Fan Pages, and avoid “unauthorized” ones
– Update and purge your Groups and Fan Pages a few times a year, especially for dead or bad ones
– Scrutinize Group invites and learn to say “no”

Creating Your Facebook Etiquette
– Reread these guidelines, decide and make note how you’d alter them to create your Facebook etiquette
– Write out or type your Facebook etiquette because doing this really helps people remember commitments
– Put your etiquette somewhere easily accessible (ex. by your computer, post & bookmark, write a note)

Damage Control
– Go through your profile and make adjustments, bit by bit, to make your profile suit your etiquette
– Go back to your past actions (or recent past, especially those visible on your Wall now) and fix accordingly
– Recall any glaring or nasty back actions, or at any time that you do in the future, find and fix accordingly

Future Practices
– Keep in mind what you committed to for your etiquette, and check against your posting of them to be sure
– Revise your etiquette where and when necessary as Facebook will change with new features & new threats
– Once in a while, ask someone who is honest with you to tell you the impression they get from your profile
– Until that impression is something you are happy with, keep fixing your profile

Please share with your Facebook friends & check this posting for periodic updates.

If you would like an abbrievated one page version of the most important points here, in my opinion, please have a look at my Practical Facebook Etiquette (Netiquette) Guide entry (with PDF), where you can customize your own Facebook etiquette. Please feel free to share this or other postings on this blog, as well as files. I will be happy to share my thoughts on any questions you might have relating to Facebook etiquette if you leave a comment.

Thank you very much for reading.

Facebook in Real Life

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A Practical Facebook Etiquette (Netiquette) Guide

Posted by envirostats on Sunday, November 9, 2008

A Practical Facebook Etiquette Guide

A Practical Facebook Etiquette Guide

For a printable version of these guideline text in this post, please click on the PDF link below to download.

A Practical Facebook Netiquette Guide, by Minh Tan [23 kB PDF] (last updated Nov 19 2008)

For additional and more comprehensive content on the topics within this post, please see My Facebook Etiquette posts, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, and A Detailed Facebook Etiquette Guide. Additionally, avoid potential Facebook trouble when around careless Facebook users.

This document is now also available in Spanish. Many thanks to David Iza for translating!

This post was noted the blog of Regina Lewis of the Do-It-Yourself Network on Nov 19, 2008.



On-line presence profiling, especially on-line social networking with Facebook, is becoming more common as schools and employers screen potential employees and scholarship recipients in yet one more category in their selection processes. This is especially important for teenagers and students who are often too casual in their on-line social networking, with emphasis on Facebook as a dominant player in the market.

This is a practical guide of Facebook etiquette, or “Netiquette”, you can use to customize your Facebook Netiquette. As you read it, check off what you agree, note where and how you want to differ, then create your Facebook Netiquette by writing or typing out all the new guidelines to help you remember them. Put it somewhere easily accessible and/or visible to you for easy reference as you Facebook. Doing this in a group with your friends and/or Parents might also be effective.

Overall Tone
Avoid negativity, especially with feelings and anything about other people

No swearing, even if positively and abbreviated like LMFAO (or not excessively if you do)

Learn to say NO to invitations (Friends, Applications, Groups, certain events not good to publicize)

Do as little as possible, preferably not at all, not the least because poking is so “old school”

Profile Privacy
Set your profile to Only Friends privacy, giving nobody limited access as they should not be your Friend

Only have Friends you’ve met in person, and purge your list a few times a year as friendships fade

Have people in front of whom you need to behave among your Facebook friends as “designated monitors”

Contact Information
Do not list personal contact information (ex. address, phone #, birth year, specific job locations like store)

Don’t update your status more than a few times a day, avoiding statuses directed at one or few people

Defend your Wall by deleting inappropriate comments or counter with reply if you don’t want to delete

Keep tagged photos of yourself under 200, untag the less flattering and inappropriate ones

Minimize tagging to let people tag themselves in photos, and don’t tag anyone in unflattering ways

Use Notes to share something genuine, avoiding personal attacks, “self-surveys” and diatribes

Be selective where you comments, expecting it to be public and what you comment for proper manners

Post Privacy
Control privacy setting each time you post something, sharing Only with Friends most of the time

Minimize Notifications sent, turning off for Applications when adding unless their news are worth sharing

Minimize Applications, especially inappropriate ones, games that waste time, or ones with few users

Groups & Fan Pages
Check details of Groups and Fan Pages before you join, especially for authenticity (ex. authorized pages)

Media/Legal Privacy
Don’t start, join or invite others to groups or pages with news or names withheld by media or law, until after release

Damage Control
Go through your profile and make adjustments to make your profile suit your Netiquette rules, bit by bit

Profile Impression
Occasionally, ask someone for an honest impression they get from your profile and fix it till you’re happy

If you do “inappropriate” things on Facebook, come back and delete it later to minimize visibility & damage

Purging to Update
Purge things a few times a year (ex. bad or outdated photos, Friends, Groups, Fan Pages, Notes, comments)

Don’t get caught up in other people’s inappropriate behaviour, stick to your Netiquette & update it as needed

Overall Approach
Treat your Facebook profile & activity like an informal resumé or media image of yourself, cause it is!

Please share with all you know who Facebook and check this link for periodic updates.


Please feel free to leave comments and I will do my best to give an answer.

Facebook in Real Life

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My Facebook Etiquette, Part 2 of 3

Posted by envirostats on Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Get the free one page Practical Facebook Netiquette Guide by the author that summarizes the most impacting behaviours from this and related posts, for discussion with friends, kids or Parents to formulate your own Facebook etiquette. Additionally, avoid potential Facebook trouble when around careless Facebook users.

In the second entry of three regarding my Facebook etiquette to share some practical examples of how to stay out of trouble on Facebook with your employer, potential employer or institution offering scholarships in the case of high school students, I will focus on various aspects of profile visibility and presence. While it may be argued that profile visibility is the source of the problem, since if nobody of concern can see your profile then you’d have nothing to worry about, the true source of all this Facebooking problem is the user behaviour. Facebook privacy is neither all that secure from professional hackers and screening services anyway, and you cannot prevent all your actions from being visible to potentially wrong parties at some time in the future unless you were to do next to nothing on Facebook, which kind of defeats the social networking aspect of its usage in the first place.

Profile visibility

My profile is set to private, with everything viewable only by my Facebook “friends”, a topic which I will soon discuss. Others searching me can only see my minimal profile listing of a little profile photo and name. They cannot see my friends list like I find I can do with most people on any list of Facebook profiles I see, with the active link (not that I’ve ever clicked the link). If you have trouble understanding why I have this level of privacy, ask yourself what you think of someone who doesn’t know you well but wants to know who you call a friend on Facebook. I think those people are a little creepy but if you don’t, go for it and share your friends list even though your profile is private to your friends.

I don’t have limited profile access given to anyone because if I’m that concerned about them in that way at all, they are gone from my Facebook friends list, period.

A word of caution about “blocking” people if you think that keeps them out of your Facebook business. Blocking people means you can’t see their profile and that they generally don’t show up on anything you look at where they have a presence, like being a member in a group. However, your profile visibility setting overrides your blocking so if you have your profile visibility set to something other than your Facebook friends, those blocked might be able to see you, and they can definitely see your profile if you have it set to “everybody”, i.e. public. So if you’ve blocked me but you have your profile viewing set to “everybody”, as long as I can still find a link to your profile, in a group to which we both belong, for example, I can still click on the link and see your profile. I just can’t find you in a “search”, so be wary of these things!


This is a big issue because your Facebook friends can see your profile and monitor what you do on-line, so I will deal with subtopics of Facebook friends separately to illustrate my point in each.

My Facebook “friends” have nothing to do with my real friends, and that’s not meant to be a cold statement. Facebook “friends” serve a purpose of “contacts” for my on-line social networking activities as I have other, more real ways, to identify and know who I count as my friends.

The huge majority of my Facebook friends I have known in person. The few I have never known in person I have had some meaningful correspondence with, along with some other means of confirming to me they are decent people so I am confident in my choice to have them as a Facebookfriends.

I do have friends from my past who are resurfacing through reconnecting on Facebook, serving its main purpose of social networking, and I do welcome the opportunity. However, if it proves to be Facebook superficial, meaning without much and no correspondence, especially simple replies to the littlest of questions, they are dropped. If they can’t even “social network” with me, then they’re not fulfilling the Facebook usage. Besides, how do I know they are who they really are and maybe not someone looking? I’m hardly vain enough to think I’m so interesting someone would want to spy on me, but why would you just let potentially anyone look in to your life? That’s why I don’t have a public profile in the first place.

As for accepting new friends, I consider all requests very carefully since by now, I generally have everyone I know with some meaningful contact who is on Facebook in my Friends list. Some I know in real life in a meaningful way are coming on to Facebook, though, and those are easy to accept.

On the other hand, I don’t make friend requests unless I have met the person in person, had a favourable impression in some way and think our paths will cross again for whatever reason/s, whether it’s because we have common interests, common friends, etc.

Profile & Wall

After you’ve decided who might be able to see your profile, pay attention to what is on your profile, especially the Wall “front” page that appears as a default when someone clicks on your profile since this is the all important “first impression” you give someone. As well, what appears on this default page is easy target, especially vulnerable since nobody has to dig through your Facebook activities, like comments made on other’s photos last year, to find anything that might be incriminating. They just scan with their eyes and read to find any potentially damaging information.

Knowing the immediate visibility of the default profile page view, which is often the Wall tab, try to abstain from having inappropriate content on it, including those made by your friends. I know it isn’t fair to judge you on your friends’ actions, but how many people do you know do not do such a thing? Besides, it’s your wall. Never mind your friends’ actions on it but it reflects on you that you let persist there instead of removing some of it. Also, eliminate any notification of “inappropriate” actions that show up on your wall. Notifications were already addressed in Part 1. If you want to keep the action, like maybe a sketchy comment you made on someone’s note, you can still delete the notification pointing to it from your Wall tab. The idea with taking stuff off your Wall is to at least make someone looking for the rap on you work to get it, you know?

Most important on your profile is what you put there, of course. Starting with personal information, I would leave out crucial personal contact information where people can find you, like home addresses and phone numbers. I don’t object to professional contact information because they serve a different purpose. I would also leave out the year of your birth if you choose to list your birth date. There are still security checks done by places like banks, for instances like when you forget certain passwords or applying for credit cards, where they ask you your birthday. They ask for other things, too, but let’s not make it any easier for anyone trying to steal your identity. A lot of this is “common sense” stuff, but as one of my personally coined expression goes, “common sense is anything but common”.

Less obvious for content is other content you put on your profile that can give the wrong first impression, like swearing or even civilized bitterness or negative emotions of any type. I knew someone who up till recently had “f*ck this sh*t!” as a profile quote beneath her profile photo, with 2,291 photos tagged of herself. You’d never have known she had gotten an outstanding student award just a few years ago, in part for community service, and I’d be willing to bet she wouldn’t be getting another scholarship in another year if universities ever saw her Facebook profile. And don’t even think about kid camp counsellor jobs she failed to get last summer with her public Facebook profile!

Keeping anything negative related to work off your profile, especially your Wall, is definitely good advice. I’ve heard small company stories, but most recently as of this entry blogging time, 13 stewardesses from Virgin Airlines were fired for what could have been interpreted as sarcastic criticisms of their work on their Facebook. I don’t know if Virgin Airlines were “watching” over them, but they probably had work Facebook “friends” who might have ratted them out. Regardless, do you want to take that chance?

As much as leaving negative work content off your Wall, leave negative family and relationship stuff off your Wall. Gossip is bad enough as it is, never mind universal gossip. Your Facebook profile is not a tabloid!

The negative possibilities of the negative things you can do on your profile is too long to cover, but perhaps try this strategy to minimize the “damage”. Think of your Facebook profile as a venue to show your best side rather than your casual side. Turn a potential negative into a positive just by taking a different approach.

Status Updates

Some people probably wisely turn this off and never fill it out to avoid putting stupid things by accident. I like using it frequently for all kinds of purposes, from updating friends on things in my life to sharing some humour, other knowledge and such, with Notifications on so it is broadcasted. It serves as a frequent reminder to check what I am doing to be appropriate as I think about it every time I update it. Fortunately, it is also temporary so that if I do regret something, I could replace the status and the previous Notification would be replaced, meaning anyone who had not seen it would not see it, and then take it off my Wall so there is no “record” of it other than people’s claims, unless they run to Facebook to dig it up, which is highly unlikely.

Regardless of how you use your status updates, though, I would simply suggest putting positive things there due to its high profile, from Notifications to among the first thing someone reads on your profile, and personal connection to you because it directly pertains to you if you use it correctly like most people do to update your status. People’s general being has an emotional ripple effect to others whether others care a lot about that person or not. It’s human nature for most people. Seeing negative news about someone you know just isn’t a good thing, and hearing good news, neutral news, funny news, etc. is a good thing.

Your profile visibility and what you choose to show in the most visible parts of your profile is highly important in the impressions you project on Facebook to viewers and potential parties wanting to take interest in it, to your liking or not. However, what you do that is a bit more “behind the scenes” is potentially even more damaging because it’s where you “loosen up” with things like the various applications available, your notes and photos, and easily forget about your actions over time. In Part 3, I will cover some of my etiquette towards those aspects of Facebooking.

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My Facebook Etiquette, Part 1 of 3

Posted by envirostats on Monday, November 3, 2008

Get the free one page Practical Facebook Netiquette Guide by the author that summarizes the most impacting behaviours from this and related posts, for discussion with friends, kids or Parents to formulate your own Facebook etiquette. Additionally, avoid potential Facebook trouble when around careless Facebook users.

I have previously posted entries about some Facebook etiquette out of concern for the rising impact of on-line social networking activities on job security, hiring and scholarship distribution related activities. Now, I’m stepping up to share my Facebook etiquette to prove I’m not a hypocrite. These are my personal guidelines, not rules, which means I obey them, in general, not necessarily all the time. I am careful where I break them, though, by which you will see what I mean as I outline my guidelines.

In this first installment about my Facebook etiquette, I will share some general mindset and practices applicable to whatever you choose to do or not do on Facebook that I may or may not do so that you have some general tools to consider to customize to your situation and Facebook behaviours.


My general mindset about watching over my Facebook activities is to think of everything I would like to post as being private by default, to be considered with whom I want to share. This is the exact opposite to Facebook defaults of everything being publicly available, which you have to change if you want to limit access. If Facebook changed its default to my mindset, I believe it would resolve a lot of the carelessness against which I am warning. However, I understand that Facebook is a social networking website so that “public” should be the default for sharing to support the “corporate purpose”, but that doesn’t mean I think it’s right, either.

My Facebook “Designated Monitors”

The above mindset is a good start to self-monitoring, but more visibly looming is having someone in front of whom you should behave among your Facebook friends. The example of your Mother would probably be going too far for this recommendation to have any meaning to most Facebook users, especially the young ones for whom this Facebook etiquette apply most. I don’t even have my Mother on my Facebook, although she is not on Facebook, but even if she were. However, I do have at least a dozen people who are friends of my Mother on my Facebook friends list, some of whom I requested to be Facebook friends with and some who requested me to be their Facebook friends.

I have some work colleagues as Facebook friends with whom I don’t have a negative relationship but with whom I don’t exactly have a strong relationship, either. They make great Facebook “designated monitors” because it is the people who don’t know you well that have the greatest potential to misunderstand you, and colleagues are also the ones who can really have a lot of impact on your life if you start giving them reasons to not like you or just form negative opinions about you, whether they like you or not. If you’re a student without work colleagues, I’m sure there is someone in your life you can find you’d have to behave in front of to add to your Facebook friends to have a wary reminder and serve as your Facebook “designated monitor”. Someone in some sort of authoritative position tends to be a pretty good choice.

I also have a few high profile people I know, and I mean really know instead of just know of, who need to be more cautious than I on Facebook so that if I went a little too far, they would drop me from their Facebook friends list. They are also good Facebook “designated monitors” in a different way than, say, your colleagues who have more impact. These high profile people don’t need to be someone famous or anything like that, just someone in a position of knowing a lot of people and who have some decent public reputation to defend. So far, I’m very happy to say, none of my high profile Facebook “designated monitors” have dropped me from their Facebook friends list.

Facebook “hit & run”

Despite what I will eventually share about limits within which I strive to stay for my Facebooking activities, it is sometimes too tempting to resist not crossing the line. However, when I do, I often do it and then delete it, leaving it long enough for certain people, or rather often single person, to see and respond so I know they will have seen it. It’s a bit like a temporary inside joke between myself and a friend I could trust with such a joke to understand it was a joke. I am taking the chance on others potentially having seen it in the few minutes to half a day someone takes to respond, of course, but it often is an act like photo comment that does not appear on my Notifications (see below) so all my Facebook friends would not be alerted to it. I still refrain from this Facebook “hit and run” more times than not when I consider it, though, and just play it really safe with a personal email rather than posting a visible comment right on a photo, note or otherwise.

Regrettable acts that appear on your profile Wall tab through notification to everyone should be deleted so at least it doesn’t linger forever, even if some people might have seen it which you had wished they hadn’t. There could be more regrets if you leave it on your Wall forever.

Let me be especially clear on something regarding this Facebook “hit and run” section, though, before I get sued for something. I do not recommend trying this tactic. It is just an example of me “pushing the envelope” during my Facebooking, though it’s hardly even “liberal” compared to what many people I know do on Facebook. If you wish to try this in your Facebooking to “step across the line” every now and then, do so at your own risk or find your own way to do it in a way with which you are comfortable.


Notification is the surest way to attract attention to your on-line social networking activities. It’s like you’re choosing what appears on your Facebook friends’ “social news ticker” that they might want to take note. I only allow notification on what I want to share with everyone, and those are my status, photos (because it is a hobby), notes (another hobby), events and links. In other words, I don’t share anything on the list under the Newsfeed Privacy list. For what I have chosen to share, I share each one very consciously knowing they go out as notices to all my Facebook friends. However, I check myself not for fear of it possibly getting in me trouble with work, but rather possibly causing misunderstandings among Facebook friends that might provoke negative reactions among some towards me… negative reactions I don’t need in my life. I don’t need to elaborate on that. I’m sure you can find examples in your life and Facebooking if you think about it.

I can’t help things like notification when I am tagged in a photo, but I don’t get myself in situations of being in questionable photos, and I will discuss that later. If I look pretty bad in a photo someone tagged of me, just for vanity purposes, I will untag myself from it and tell them so to be honest. Fortunately, my vanity has not yet come into play despite some unflattering photos of me on-line as I am very comfortable with my less than glamorous looks just the way they are.

Being tagged in Notes is another matter because it has nothing to do with how you look and it’s impossible what your Facebook “friends” say about you. I am more careful about being tagged in notes than in photos, but my careful choice of Facebook “friends” has not seen anyone tagging me in notes in a way for which I would remove myself.

I don’t have notifications for writing on walls, notes, photos or the like because I have friends in various circles who don’t know each other that it’s not necessary to bother them all with it. There is limited notification for those who have also commented on those things so at least they might be interested in what others had to say on something they cared enough to comment on, so I think that’s fair.

Excessive notification can also cause your Facebook friends Facebook fatigue of you. I’m guilty of this myself from the past before I paid some attention to my Facebooking and on the occasional day still when Facebook “conversations” happen among certain groups of friends, like my running friends. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of my Facebook friends have limited getting newsfeeds from me, but it’d only be karma, I guess, since I have a reasonably lengthy newsfeed limiting list myself.

Next time, I will discuss Profile publicity and the Facebook “friends” you choose. Profile visibility could be argued to be the main cause of Facebook etiquette problems since what people can’t see, they can’t know about you. However, if it were really about profile publicity, you’d have no Facebook friends and can then just do as you please and you’d never have to read what I am writing! Make no mistake about it, the problem with Facebook etiquette is the user.

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